Sunday, September 23, 2012

The Beauty of Bed-Sharing!

   While I was pregnant with Oliver my husband and I decided that the baby would NOT sleep in the bed with us. We purchase a nice co-sleeper/bassinet to put in our room instead, because we wanted him close but not as "in our bed" close...lol.  The reason behind our decision at that time was purely on what was ingrained in us from others (without doing our own research) and also based on horror stories we heard about kids sleeping with their parents until really late in life...and we didn't want our baby to be in our bed until middle school or even elementary school for that matter.

    So the story goes...I delivered Oliver at 10pm on a Saturday night and since we gave birth at a birth center we were sent home 4 hours later so around 2-3 am. My wonderful mid wife kept insisting that the baby should be sleeping in the bed with us...and surely enough when we got home he did go straight into the bed with us. It was the most natural thing for me to do being exhausted and all, and he hasn't left yet (now at almost 6 months). Both my husband and I saw the need and the convenience of having him with us in the bed.

Me and Oliver during his first week at home!
   People's first reaction to bed sharing is... OMG that is so dangerous (as if we plan on killing our child or if we came from another planet...). Well in case you didn't know bed sharing is a very very very old practice used around the world. It is extremely common in Europe and other parts of the world, and is popular in the US as well but kept a secret. My mother bed shared with my brother and I and I am grateful for it today.

Obviously the first month sleeping with Oliver in our bed was a readjustment phase. Since he is our first we were learning from scratch. I tried using the Snuggle Nest and that didn't last too long.. Then I found myself up with the breast feeding pillow every 2 hours feeding him and not getting much consistent sleep myself. Then I heard my friend Zura say that she feeds her little one on her side laying down and just lifts her shirt up... and it couldn't have made more sense in my head. So I tried it! I laid the baby by my side like always and when it was time to eat I just exposed my breast for him and voila... no crying in transition and not having to get up physically... it was perfect. Almost too good to be true! So by almost 2 months old Oliver was sleeping through the night by my standards. My standards are not very high compared to most...lol

Happy Mornings, every morning!
So here is how our beautiful nights play out... I bathe Oliver around 9 then after the bath I massage him. Around 10 I lay down in the bed to nurse him. After he is passed out I leave him there so I can have some ME time. Then 2-4 hours later he makes a little cry for me to come back and I nurse him again. At this point I either stay for the night with him or get back up to finish what I was doing. Then through the night since he is right next to me I can feel when he starts to move around and I nurse him (this is usually done subconsciousness nowadays).  I could not even tell you how many times he nurses through the night because honestly I do not know...because I am usually asleep. Most of the time he helps himself to an all you can eat buffet. Then he usually wakes up any where from 8-10 in the mornings (use to be around 11-12 from months 2-4). When he wakes up he does so with a smile and now begins to talk softly (blabbering). So he goes down peacefully and wakes up peacefully. He does not cry at all through the night, not a sound out of his mouth. This is great for my husband because he get s a full nights sleep every night and so do I for that matter. I have not felt tired nor sleep deprived after this arrangement fell into place.

   I was not afraid as most people are. I have never had a fear of rolling over my baby EVER. The thought never even passed through my mind. He was in my belly for 9 months and I never rolled on him then why would things change from one day to the next just because he was on the outside now??? We have plenty of pillows, a sheet and a blanket in the bed and I never had a fear of him suffocating because he was right next to me the whole time. It is very natural to sleep with your baby! Actually I caught a fever I probably wouldn't  of have because of him next to me. I can also feel his breathing and know everything is okay.

  However, there are some negative aspects of bed sharing (which don't bother me at all). Obviously you will get the occasional pee puddle in your bed, no biggy. Haven't have a poop stain yet! In the beginning I had puddles of breast milk everywhere that get crusty, so you have to change the sheets more frequently, but that doesn't happen anymore. You obviously have less space in bed, but I am cool with that. As far as intimacy... I love what another blogger wrote on the matter "If the bed is the only place that you do it, you have a really boring life.. get creative".

  If you are still not convinced about bed sharing think about this for a moment. We love our husbands so much and love having them in the bed for our security and warmth. If you ever had to experience your husband being away for even one night, how did that make you feel? For me it is lonely, sad, and afraid.  Now imagine your baby, new to this world... they lived inside of you for 9 months. What kind of a transition is it for that baby not to hear your heart beat and breath or feel your warmth when you separate them from you cold turkey. The thought of that alone is so sad to me. This poor baby has instincts to be close to momma and momma puts them in a cold bed to be by themselves...

   So how long will Oliver be in our bed... who knows! These types of changes should take place naturally and not forced in my opinion just like weaning a child off the breast. Also each child is different! I heard of children who do not want to be in their parents bed from a few months old... and others stay longer than welcomed...lol

Daddy and Oliver first week at home!
Passed Out!



Sleeping Beauty!

Stretching....so cute!

Passed out before I could dress him!

This is a hard life...

Happy mornings!

Good Morning Sexy !

We have been napping on sheep skin!

Bonding with Daddy!

Bonding with Momma, and enjoying breakfast in bed!

Peaceful transitions! No one wakes up to feed.

There are many awesome web resources on the matter, here are the links to some on my favorites.
http://safebedsharing.org/safetyguidelines.html
http://www.phdinparenting.com/2009/01/09/cosleeping-benefits/
http://www.askdrsears.com/topics/sleep-problems/scientific-benefits-co-sleeping
http://www.askdrsears.com/news/latest-news/dr-sears-addresses-recent-co-sleeping-concerns
http://www.attachmentparenting.org/support/articles/artbenefitscosleep.php
http://naturalparentsnetwork.com/five-benefits-cosleeping/
http://www.breastfeedingbasics.com/articles/night-waking-will-i-ever-get-a-good-nights-sleep-again

Beltway Babywearers: Wearing a Newborn


A great post by another baby wearing mama...

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Saturday, September 22, 2012

Slingin' in the Rain!

Well actually we were wrapping in the rain but slinging was a better fit for the title :).
   
    Just want to add some more benefits of wearing your baby. Today has been a non stop rainy and dark day so it was a stay indoors type of day. Baby Oliver was getting cranky, don't know if it is because of teething, maybe has daddy's cold, or was just bored to death... so I decided to take him out doors. Since the rain wasn't very strong I wrapped him up, took an umbrella, and around the blocks we went. He was so peaceful and happy to be outdoors regardless of the rain. I couldn't have done this with a stroller... it is just more natural for me to wear him, and he loves it too.  Also the wrap turned my pajama/night gown into a dress, hid the fact I wasn't wearing a bra and also protected the baby from mosquitoes (notice I tucked his feet into the wrap). Also, if  wrapped correctly with good wrap, it is extremely comfortable to wear your baby.

I am using a homemade cotton gauze wrap which is ideal for
Florida because it is so HOT. There are many options out
 there for materials for wraps... not all are created equal! 

That's our new $2.99 Ikea Umbrella.

 
Another awesome benefit of baby wearing is that you can breastfeed your baby in the wrap... this is great on many occasions. Here are some pictures of how this is done. Obviously baby has to be nice and high on your chest and have easy access to his milk supply. 
Oliver got hungry from the walk!



He is getting sleepy....

He is OUT! Within minutes!

Feeding with no hands. I was able to take these pictures myself!

When in public you can raise the wrap up to cover the back of baby's
head for more privacy or even wear a jacket  as well. 

It has been such a crappy day and my hubby is feeling crappy so I will leave you with some cute baby pictures to make it better!

Playing soccer indoors with my 1st soccer ball
given to me by my uncle Carlos! 

Getting stronger... preparing to crawl!

My rainy day friends!

TOES

Daddy's coughing and sneezing are funny to me!

Friday, September 21, 2012

My Crossfit Life: Before, During and After Pregnancy!

   A little over two years ago after dreadfully dealing with infertility specialists and beginning to have small bouts of depression, God stirred me into the direction of diet and exercise... After doing tons of research about women's hormones and diets, I decided to go organic with all my meats, dairy and grains.and I gave up all processed foods. Also along the way of research I added the Blood Type Diet (I am B+) and decided to stick to "Kosher Meats" (no pork, shellfish...). I also got rid of any products (from shampoo to mascara and everything in between) that contain parabens and other toxic chemicals these companies are trying to kill us with...

   So now that I changed my diet... what to do for exercise... I have been practically an active coach potato for 2 years (my lifestyle was active compared to most people but inactive to my standards).  So how did we decide on Crossfit? Well we use to take our laundry to a laundry mat not too far from our home and every time we went we drove by a gym that had "Crossfit"  written on it in big lettering. My husband noticed it and began to research what it was about. He kept telling me that is was the type of work outs that the guys from the movie 300 did to get into shape for the movie...yeah that is real motivating for a woman (not).  So he went, came back dead three days in a row.. the first day he was comatose in a tub of ice and told me I should definitely go... I looked at him and said, nah it's okay. Well 2 weeks later I did go... the first day was a disaster, I puked while working out for the first time ever...It was a real kick in the ass, a real reality check and it felt GOOD. So we signed up and started Crossfitting at Crossfit ATP in Dania Beach, FL. 

 BEFORE...

  Now bitten by the Crossfit bug I started to get better, faster and stronger... it is a great feeling when you conquer things you never imagined possible for you to do (like push ups, pull ups, rope climbs, wall jumps, lifting heavy weights...) , so sweet! It was also the first time I would get anxious and excited before working out ever... working out use to be boring and so repetitive with not much gain. So a little less than 6 months and I was in my first Crossfit competition (The Broward Affiliate Cup). Not knowing what to expect it was so fun because Crossfit is not only about working out it is about relationships and camaraderie...we have made so many friends by joining Crossfit, that is it like being adopted by a new family in a way. 

Coach Juan Bacca doing his thing :)

Getting Ready to start! 
Our Team Crossfit ATP
Jeremiah (my team mate) and I passed out after the workout!

  So after completing my first competition I got even more inspired to train harder...and my husband and I did another competition (Partner Pandemonium) 6 months later.

The Girls!

Hubby and I

The Team - Crossfit ATP

Partner Burpees

65# Thrusters


 Well at the turn of my one year anniversary at Crossfit I was very happy with my gains...

12 kg (each) Kettlebells

Virtual Shoveling

Swing the Kettles at the Beach WOD

Strict Pull Up like a Boss..lol

DURING...


 And then I got pregnant (the details on how that happened will come in another post, in regards to the infertility...). I was not going to quit Crossfit, oh no. I planned on sticking through it until I popped. Doing Crossfit while pregnant is possible and very beneficial for your pregnancy and deliver (However if you had never done Crossfit in your life, being pregnant is NOT the time to start!). In order to do so you need to really trust as well as listen to your body and get advice from others who managed to do it. There is a great site call crossfitmom.com and you can read just about anything from modifications for certain workouts to nutrition and more. The crazy thing is I was able to keep up in most classes, even though I was out of breath quicker. I obviously had to modify a lot especially towards the end. Here are some of the modifications I had to do along the way:

- I stopped running and rowed instead. (I never liked running in the first place and I would get really bad round ligament pains from doing it if I tried while pregnant.)

- I stopped squatting past 90 degrees. (Your body releases a ligament relaxant hormone so that your body can stretch for the baby..so it is not safe to push your ligaments during pregnancy.)

- I stopped hand stand push ups, rope climbs and wall jumps. ( better safe than sorry... even though there are woman who do them through their pregnancy.)

- I stopped burpees, and switch to pregnant burpees.

- No more sit ups... I did do toes to bar pretty far along....

- Went down in weights overall.

- Step onto the box instead of actual box jumps.

- Went from double unders to singles and then stopped jump roping altogether towards the end.

4 months pregnant

still doing pull ups and chest to bar!


Post Work Out.. catching my breath!
I did not Crossfit all the way through pregnancy as I would have like to. I stopped at month 8. The reason I stopped was because I had a really bad Flu and a baby shower to plan during month 9, so I just decided it was time to stop. That was a difficult decision to make, but it had to be done.  Here is video of my pull ups at 8 months pregnant. 


AFTER...

So after delivering my precious baby Oliver, I was grateful to Crossfit for my body not getting to out of shape through the pregnancy. I did not have a six pack the day after or do I have one now 5 months after... but I am much better off compared to other mothers who did not. I had a great pregnancy, no vomiting or nausea and I didn't swell at all until 4 weeks before I gave birth (and I also wasn't working out either). I was surprised to see how fast my body healed and bounced back after my birth. I was blessed to have had an all natural birth at a birth center with a marvelous mid-wife (this will be another post...).  I started back at crossfit 3 months after the birth (just to be on the safe side and because I was being a little lazy). IT WAS SO HARD! It felt as if I started back from scratch...but now I am getting back on track. Oliver comes to the gym with my husband and I. We do back to back classes and we switch off. Oliver loves it there and he is blessed to have so many nice people around him. I think we actually created a Future Crossfit Monster.... hahahaha
I am Sexy Crossfit and I know it! 

Love my Iron!

I love crossfit!



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Thursday, September 20, 2012

Is Baby Wearing Dangerous?

Today Oliver and I went to the Swap Shop with our friend Zura and her two beautiful daughters... It was hot, really hot... babies and mommas were sweating up a storm. We wrapped our babies up in our light cotton gauge wraps and proceeded to go on our treasure hunt around the flea market. Minding our own business and our babies fast asleep in their wraps... out comes a lady telling us that what we are doing (wearing our babies) is dangerous and that the babies can not breath and practically telling us we are going to kill our babies. This woman mind you is from the islands were probably everyone wears their babies one way or another...however we were the bad ones and for the sake of not starting a debate we just smiled and walked away from her. So is baby wearing dangerous? No it is NOT...

Here are some recent pictures from our trip to the laundry mat to do our large items!



The following information comes from Baby Wearing International's Web Site along with my own opinions and comments added in red...


So Is Babywearing Safe?

When done properly, carrying a baby in a soft baby carrier can be safer than carrying a baby in your arms. Your carrier doesn’t have muscles that get tired, and your carrier doesn’t have arms that reflexively reach out to balance you or catch you when you fall (Especially after you workout!). But, as with anything concerning babies, good safety practices (and common sense!) are of paramount importance. This article has many safety tips, but no set of guidelines can anticipate every circumstance. You are responsible for your child’s safety as well as your own. Whatever carrier you choose, learn to use it properly, and always keep safety in mind.
  
A Few ABSOLUTE RULES

1. Make sure your baby can breathe (or the lady at Swap Shop will have proved her point...lol) Baby carriers allow parents to be hands-free to do other things … but you must always remain active in caring for your child. No baby carrier can ensure that your baby always has an open airway; that’s your job.

a. Never allow a baby to be carried, held, or placed in such a way that his chin is curled against his chest. This rule applies to babies being held in arms, in baby carriers, in infant car seats, or in any other kind of seat or situation. This position can restrict the baby’s ability to breathe. Newborns lack the muscle control to open their airways. They need good back support in carriers so that they don’t slump into the chin-to-chest position.

b. Never allow a baby’s head and face to be covered with fabric. Covering a baby’s head and face can cause her to “rebreathe” the same air, which is a dangerous situation. Also, covering her head and face keeps you from being able to check on her. Always make sure your baby has plenty of airflow. Check on her frequently. (Again common sense factor, I  and many other baby wearing mothers do cover their baby's head to protect them from the sun, rain, and annoying people, I do however leave an opening for him to breath and an always aware of what he is doing.)

2. Never jog, run, jump on a trampoline, or do any other activity that subjects your baby to similar shaking or bouncing motion. “This motion can do damage to the baby’s neck, spine and/or brain,” explains the American Chiropractic Association. (Once again the common sense factor can be applied here!)

3. Never use a baby carrier when riding in a car. Soft baby carriers provide none of the protection that car seats provide. (Obviously the safest place for a child is in the car seat...)

4. Use only carriers that are appropriate for your baby’s age and weight. For example, frame backpacks can be useful for hiking with older babies and toddlers but aren’t appropriate for babies who can’t sit unassisted for extended periods. Front packs usually have a weight range of 8 to 20 pounds; smaller babies may slip out of the carrier, and larger babies will almost certainly cause back discomfort for the person using the carrier. (The common sense bandit strikes again...however you can wear a baby under 8 lbs in a wrap, just saying.)
   

A Few Guidelines for Everyday Safety

1. Inspect your carrier regularly to ensure it is sound. Check the fabric, seams, and any buckles or other fasteners. Do this every time you use it to avoid complacency. Don’t use a carrier unless it is structurally sound.

2. When using carriers out and about, check that your baby is secure by using reflective surfaces – such as car or store windows – as mirrors, by double checking the baby’s position with your hands, or by enlisting the help of another set of eyes. (This is very helpful especially when you first start off...sometimes you think the baby is positioned well and then you look in the mirror and realize they are not. Once you have been baby wearing for sometime you will be able to "feel" if the baby is positioned correctly.)

3. If you shouldn’t do it while pregnant because of an enhanced risk of falls, you shouldn’t do it while carrying a baby. For example, your risk of falling increases when you climb a ladder, ride a horse, ride a bicycle, or go skating. Your risk of falling also increases on slippery surfaces like the ones you encounter when you go bowling, sailing, or spelunking. When a baby is in his mother’s womb, he has built-in protection, but a baby in arms or in a carrier does not have that protection. (Again common sense people! No bull riding while wearing baby, bad mommy!)

4. If you should wear protective gear while doing an activity, you shouldn’t do it while carrying a baby. Baby carriers do not provide hearing protection, eye protection, protection from projectiles such as rocks flung from a lawn mower, protection from fumes or dust such as occur during lawn mowing and some household cleaning tasks, or protection from falls. (Again common sense people! No using a blow torch while wearing baby, bad mommy!)

5. Protect your baby from the elements. Little limbs and heads may need sun protection. Don’t dress your baby too warmly in the summer, and don’t use a baby carrier under circumstances that could cause the baby to suffer heat stress. Don’t let your baby get too cold in the winter. (There are some excellent coats and ponchos designed especially for use with baby carriers, and you can also improvise or make your own.) (Be careful for the top of head too... if you are outdoors for long periods of time put a sun hat on your baby and be mindful of all skin that is exposed!)

6. Be aware of what your baby can reach. In particular, be aware that a baby on your back can reach things you can’t see. (This goes for hands and feet...many things have fallen and broken because of this.)

7. Don’t put loose items in the carrier with your baby that can be choking hazards, that can poke your baby, or that can cover your baby’s face. (If your baby needs something to play with put on a nursing necklace or equivalent.)


8. Other Things to Consider: Carrying a baby in arms or in a carrier is a task for a responsible adult who can assess risk in a mature way. Here are some things to consider about specific activities.

Cooking. Carrying a baby while cooking subjects the baby to an enhanced risk of burns. A baby in arms or in a carrier is at stovetop height, and burns can occur. Reaching into a hot oven while carrying a baby similarly puts the baby at risk for burns. (The whole reason for a carrier is for freedom for mom to do things, and the most important thing for a mom to do is EAT. All carriers tell you not to cook while baby wearing. However most moms do cook with the baby on them. Obviously you should be aware of your baby to make sure they don't burn themselves... i never turn the baby towards the stove, I always approach the stove from the side and don't cook things that can "spit".)

Boating. While it might seem more secure to use a baby carrier to board a small boat than to carry a baby in arms, the safer practice is to have the baby wear a personal flotation device. Personal flotation devices are generally not compatible with baby carriers. Moreover, if you fell into the water, having your baby securely held to your body by a baby carrier would be a grave danger. ( I don't own a boat or have access to one regularly, so not sure about this one... but I am sure if you have a nice big boat wearing a baby is not a problem unless you get thrown off.)


Safety Guidelines for Learning New Carries

Most people easily learn front or hip carries, but when learning these carries you should still support your baby with your arm until you are confident that your baby is securely held in the carrier. Back carries are more challenging, but the reward is tremendous liberation and, for heavier babies and toddlers, greater comfort for the person carrying the child. These guidelines apply to all carries but are particularly important when learning back carries:

1. Practice with a doll or teddy first. Understanding the instructions with your mind is just the first step; your body needs to understand them as well. Doing a few “dry runs” will help you build the muscle memory for doing a particular carry. ( I never did this step...but I can see how for some people this is a MUST.)

2. It is best to try a new carry with your baby when you are both well rested and generally content. (Later on when you are a pro, putting them in can help calm you and the baby.)

3. Use a spotter … but only another adult who accepts the responsibility of keeping your baby from falling. The spotter must be able to catch the baby at any instant if he or she should start to fall. (This is very important while trying to back carry!)

4. Use a mirror.

5. Start low. Most carries can be accomplished while sitting on the floor. As you build muscle memory and confidence, you can move up, next lifting your baby onto your body from a bed or chair. (I never started sitting on the floor, but definitely start in a place where is the baby falls it will be safe, like a bed.)

Make sure you feel confident with your carrier. Find one that you can use with peace of mind. 
If you don't trust it, don't use it! 

Daddy snapped a picture while we were trying to tackle a back carry. 

Some extra stuff to keep in mind that the article does NOT mention...

(1) When baby wearing be aware of doorways, furniture and things that are in your close proximity. Even if you are just carrying your baby in your arms. Every mom has banged her baby against something on accident by not being aware of your surroundings. So make sure you give yourself enough room to maneuver through doorways and around furniture...and be extra careful in new environment.

(2) When bending over to pick something up always put one hand behind you baby's head! Other wise your baby's head and hit the floor or even fall out! 

(3) When eating while baby wearing for the first time you will realize you need a bid for their head... I would recommend you but a napkin or hat on the baby while you eat...especially if the food is hot. Otherwise your baby will have a head full of food and burns if you are not careful...the food could easily fin its way in the baby's eyes and ears as well... just be mindful and eat carefully in these situations! 

(4) Do not fall asleep with your baby in the wrap! I shouldn't have to explain why.

(5) Do not wear a baby while intoxicated!

(6) In my opinion, front carries are safer than back carries because you can see your child at all times. I don't feel comfortable with my baby on my back...maybe when he is a toddler it will be different. 

(7) Always use common sense and BE AWARE of your baby and your surroundings...Just like you guarded your belly during pregnancy... the same apprehension and protection should be applied why baby wearing. 


So to the worried woman who obviously had a bad experience with baby wearing or lacks the information behind it...our babies are and will be safe on US. Confidence, knowledge and common sense on any matter is key.